Comments on: What To Do With Naughty Kids

By: ianpeatey

ianpeatey — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 12:28:54 +0000

Jody. I may sound like I know what I’m doing and sometimes I even think I know what I’m doing but not sure how often I really do know what I’m doing I can only judge by how my own kids are growing up and that seems to be going wonderfully! Sorry to hear you haven’t found anything here you can relate to … and thanks for taking the time to leave a comment.

By: jody

jody — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 08:25:12 +0000

well u all sound like u no what u doing but lm yet to read anything l can relate to

By: ianpeatey

ianpeatey — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 08:47:11 +0000

Hi Mama-oh

I wouldn’t praise the parents or the children for the examples of behaviour you give either. And I sure don’t enjoy being taken for granted, demanded to do things or having my nice peaceful dinner disturbed by kids running around breaking things and making a noise. I don’t consider any of those examples of what I would regard as:

“be compassionate to everyone – even strangers” and I don’t want my kids doing these things.

On the other hand I wouldn’t write those kids off (and their parents) as ‘naughty ill mannered kids’ or ‘bratty monsters’. They are human beings learning how to grow up .. and that’s sometimes painful for you and me. Parenting is also a tough job and what worked for you and your kids (as it seems to have done) isn’t necessarily a formula you can apply to each and every family.

I want my kids to learn how to co-operate, fit in with those they share the world with and respect and be sensitive to others AND themselves. I’d like them to learn other things as well, of course, and most importantly I want them to do what they do because they see the value in it and they enjoy it .. NOT because they are afraid.

And I’m not naive, nor am I at all politically correct and I’m painfully well aware that there are plenty of parents who do a terrible job most of the time. And then there are the rest of us who just do a terrible job sometimes.

And I will keep my kids away from your yard .. I’d like them to be where they’re welcome

By: Mama-oh

Mama-oh — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 02:36:39 +0000

Wow! There are a ton of naughty ill mannered kids in my neighborhood and I really don’t praise their parents for their behavior. I had 5yr old demand I bake them cookies and then follow me around whining why I won’t do it. And this was NOT my kid. Let their own damn lazy parent bake them some cookies. My kids are polite and they have will have great self esteem when they grow. I can’t see letting your kid run around being a bratty monster as a great thing. People are so politically correct they are scared to say the wrong word a person but they will let their kids ruin others dinners running around restaurants, breaking things in stores and being down right obnoxious. But hey, whatever floats your boat, just keep your “naughty” kids away from mine and my yard.

By: ianpeatey

ianpeatey — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 15:13:37 +0000

At that age they have virtually no other way to communicate … and I think from an evolutionary point of view the cry of a baby is designed to get attention! And it works very well, provided we have the capacity to hear the cry for what it is.

By: marjnhomer

marjnhomer — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 15:34:36 +0000

i lOVED this article because whenever my kids cry, their unlces or father or grandma states, “don’t cry, you’re a good kid.” they cry because they need something and when you are 4-5 months thats your form of communication.

By: jessica

jessica — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 18:01:59 +0000

I am at my last string. I have no idea what to do. I have a 5 and a 4 year they are both girls. They used to be great little girls and do nothing wrong. This past year they have been terrible. They never mind me or their father. They are always fight, hitting and yelling at each other. I can not control them. What am i supposed to do. i can not handle it we tried putting them in time out, we spank them and nothing is working. I need help.

By: Lindsey

Lindsey — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 18:47:11 +0000

Speech drills are pretty much repeating the same phonetic sounds over and over. My daughter is in a special preschool for kids with bad speech patterns, and they have to do a lot more rote things. It is incredibly boring for her.

I am actually proud of her being able to set her own boundaries. I think kids get mixed signals when they are told to do whatever an adult or authority figure tells them to, and then told not to do anything that makes them uncomfortable, like if someone other than their parents or a doctor tells them to undress. I teach my own kids to listen to people that matter to them, because that’s one of the ways we show we love and respect other people. They’ll listen to me and their father and grandparents, and our close friends, but everyone else has to work a little harder.

I don’t really think that’s a bad thing. It gets frustrating- especially for her teachers- but not all good things are easy.