Comments on: Talking behind your back

By: ianpeatey

ianpeatey — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:58:59 +0000

Ah yes! Sorry for the error. Of course men don’t gossip! Never. I don’t think we ever talk trivia either. Always deep, wise and intelligent stuff!

By: ianpeatey

ianpeatey — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:55:57 +0000

I think it’s quite soundly based in psychology theory – ‘projection’. I do think, as you originally pointed out, that it’s possible to go too far with the concept though and see the whole as a projection. I don’t take it that far as I don’t find it very helpful.

By: ianpeatey

ianpeatey — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:51:18 +0000

Ah! In those days I would have LOVED sharing an office with you then! I didn’t leave because of the gossip but I did leave (the accounting field) partly because of the politics. But mainly because I was made redundant! It was a long time ago though and I like to put a spin on it.

By: ianpeatey

ianpeatey — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:49:29 +0000

At the time, if you’d talked about parts of me that were disowned I wouldn’t have had a clue what you were talking about. But clearly that was a lesson I needed to learn.

By: ianpeatey

ianpeatey — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:48:08 +0000

Bunny. If you have fairy dust, why not use it? I think offices are probably places where gossip happens a lot to spice up the day. Certainly the office work I did was in desperate need of spicing up. That’s not an excuse .. it was wrong and harmful .. but at the time I knew no better. That’s not much better as an excuse though, is it?

By: ianpeatey

ianpeatey — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:45:09 +0000

Jay, yes those sneaky third person pronouns! But I understood perfectly what you said so I wasn’t confused, if that’s any consolation.

By: Evan

Evan — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 22:19:27 +0000

Hi Ian,

I agree that the important stuff is being triggered. Also being destructive.

Sometimes when organising things it is necessary to talk about people and their work who aren’t there. It is the personal character assessment/assassination that is the problem I think. (And I do think that the pot calling the kettle black is usually true.)

What do you mean men gossip? Women gossip – when men talk trivia and about others who aren’t there it’s networking!

By: Brenda

Brenda — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 16:48:17 +0000

Here it is again, Ian. I found this on Twitter today.

“We see the world as we see our self.” — Deepak Chopra

I believe it. I’m just not totally getting it!