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What Are You Waiting For?

How much time do you spend waiting? For people, for appointments, for trains, planes or buses. Or maybe you wait for things to get better (or worse), for time to pass, for a lucky break, for the right moment, the right person … for many things.

Some years ago I was late for a business meeting. As I rushed into the room I apologised and thanked him for waiting. His reply stays with me to this day.

I wasn’t waiting,” he said. “I never wait. I always have something to do. Something to think about, a problem to mull over, an idea to contemplate, reading to catch up. And if I don’t, I just quietly watch the world go by and enjoy the moment.

Whenever I waited I used to get frustrated with the waste of time or bored with the emptiness. Either that or I’d blame what I was waiting for or blame myself for waiting.

Waiting is a choice

People are late for many reasons.

Trains leave when they leave.

Things will get better (or worse) when they do.

Time will pass with or without me.

I don’t believe in lucky breaks.

The right moment is now and the right person is whoever I’m with.

Nothing and nobody forces me to wait. It’s always a choice I make. I can choose to wait or I can choose to do something (or nothing) and choosing to wait in suffering serves no meaningful purpose.

Waiting is a state of mind.

Waiting is not an activity, not something I do, but a limbo I impose on myself. It’s an artificial construction of my own mind in which I imagine I’m ‘doing’ waiting.

If I can create a waiting state of mind then I can also choose to create the opposite – a ‘not-waiting’ state of mind. It’s easy and anyone can do it just by deciding to.

Catch the thought ‘I’m waiting’ and change it to ‘I’m not waiting’

Waiting is giving away my power

Every minute I wait is a minute I give away to someone or something else. Unless I’m donating it willingly and joyfully it’s a minute I’ve frittered away. It’s not only time I’m giving away, but my power that comes when I take control of my life and responsibility for what I do.

I’m a victim.

Mostly the recipient of this time is completely unaware they’ve received something from me. They didn’t choose it, they didn’t value it, they could do nothing with it. It’s wasted and comes with all the negative energy I’ve attached to it.

When I ‘not-wait’ I take my life in my own hands and there’s no room for blame or resentment or frustration.

Don’t wait for anything

Get creative.

  • Think about something. You always have your mind with you, so use it to solve a problem, make a plan or reflect on an experience
  • Carry a small notebook with you and write
  • Make a call you’ve been meaning to make
  • Catch up on some reading
  • Leave and go do something
  • Enjoy the break and do absolutely nothing

You may just find that when the person or thing you are ‘not-waiting’ for arrives, you welcome it joyfully and enjoy it as an unexpected pleasure.

You Don’t Need Money

Money is an important and inescapable part of our lives. Each of us has a relationship with money, and I’ve personally found much freedom by getting clear about that relationship. Clarifying the role of money in our lives is, I believe, a crucial step to finding peace.

At the core of this is realising – you don’t need money!

Master or Servant?

You can’t eat or drink it, you can’t build houses with it (not sensible ones, anyway!) and it’s not very effective for clothing. While we may need some of the things we can buy with it – money is, of itself,  pretty paper, coins or numbers in a computer system.

Yet I hear many people say, ‘I need money.’

Some risk their lives for it, some commit suicide over it – and some are willing to cheat and kill for it. It’s the centre of many conflicts in business and family relationships and most people spend half their lives working for it, in jobs they hate.

So what’s the big deal?

Why do so many of us believe we need it, and so many behave as though they are the servant of money rather then the master of it?

Money is a great invention – one of the greatest inventions of mankind – but I think we just forgot that great inventions are supposed to be a service to us – not the other way around.

Money is actually pretty useful!

It’s not impossible to live outside the entire money system – but few people ever achieve it, or want to, for that matter.

Close your eyes and relax for a few moments.

865434_money_mattersImagine looking in the places where you keep cash (wallet? purse? pocket? under the bed?). Imagine all your cash has disappeared and in each place you look there is nothing. You check your bank account and the number you see is zero! It’s all gone as some invisible force has wiped out all traces of any money you had in your possession.

What’s your reaction?

Apart from being confused about how it could have happened, were you worried, nervous, panicked, angry? Or maybe relieved?

If you were completely indifferent – congratulations! You’ve probably reached enlightenment!

We don’t need it .. but it sure is handy!

If I delve into my distant memory of 7 years of studying economics, business and accounting I recall two main things we use money for.

1   Means of exchange

Which basically means I can go into any store and hand over cash and get stuff back, like food, clothes, TVs. More likely I’ll issue an instruction to my bank to take some numbers off my our bank statement and into the retailer’s account.

865433_money_mattersMoney makes life very easy to obtain the variety of things we need to live plus a vast range of things we don’t need but can be great to have. Of course, many things we buy or desire serve little purpose and hold us down – but that’s a topic for another day.

It’s a common language I have with anyone offering goods or services so saves a lot of time and trouble. Try paying for your $126 purchases at the supermarket check-out with an original Van Gogh painting and my guess is you’ll discover just how universal money is as a language – and how we’ve shut out alternative methods of exchange!

Money is a way to meet needs for freedom, flexibility, variety and ease.

I find it useful to remind myself that I can meet these needs in other ways – just that I choose money because of it’s convenience.

Having money is useless and it’s only useful when I pass it on. In other words I need to give it away in order for it to serve me in any way. I like to see myself as a channel through which it flows – it comes to me for services I’m providing and I pass it on for services provided.

If I’m a wide channel then money can flow without any pressure building up.

2   Measure of value …

… of things

Money itself only has value when it’s exchanged and because it’s divided into nice neat units it gives some measure of value of what it’s exchanged for.

It’s easy to lose sight, though, that value is essentially qualitative and rarely translates easily into a number. The market system goes some way to provide some reassurance that price = value, but it’s not perfect by any stretch of the imagination.

How I value things is uniquely personal depending on many things – and it changes frequently. If I’m thirsty – a bottle of water has a huge value to me and virtually none if I’m not. A fast sports car has no value to me at all despite it’s price tag because there’s no place to park it where I live. This blog means a lot to me and I’m willing to pay to keep it running.  I’m not earning enough yet from affiliate programmes to even cover the domain and hosting costs – but that’s ok as it has value to me beyond money.

I try to keep focus on the qualitative elements of value and not get too sucked into the whole pricing game. Of course, the less money flowing to me, the more I have to take care about my choices – but again it is about choice.

… of people

One of the unfortunate side effects of using money as value measure is that many apply the same thinking to human beings.

It seems commonplace, though rarely explicitly stated, that people with high salaries and/or wealth are valued more highly than those without. If I apply this thinking to how highly I value myself then it’s very damaging to my self esteem – to say nothing of the further damage it does it when I apply it to those around me.

I think we’ve mixed up the value of people with the value of the contribution they make to the world. Every human being has the same value – irrespective of the circumstances they were born into. It just can’t be turned into a monetary amount without creating a very screwed up world. One where people can be ‘collateral damage’, ‘lower class’ or ‘human resources’ to mention a few terms that come to mind.

I want to value all human beings equally, and at the same time value differently how each contributes to the world. We don’t all add the same value through what we do and how we live our lives. That’s down to many factors and almost impossible to measure objectively. Attaching a monetary value to it is an incredibly narrow attempt to do it.

I refuse to measure the value of anyone based on their spending power.

What I try to do is treat money like a vote.

If I appreciate something I’ve received (goods, services etc..) then I gladly vote with my money as an encouragement to continue doing what they’re doing.  And when receiving money I try to see that as one way of encouraging me. It’s not the only measure, and not necessarily the most important one. But I do like to have money flowing in and out as it gives me a strong sign that I’m doing something meaningful to me and to others.

Money certainly can’t make you happy, but a conscious relationship with it can put it in its place and bring a lot of peace, joy and freedom.

Compassionate Business

Much of the first part of my adult life was spent in and around business, including one of the largest professional firms in the world (it’s also one with, I think, the longest name in the professional world). I learned a huge amount and was a great period of my life. But ultimately there was something missing and it took me a long time to figure out what it was.

I still spend a lot of time around business people and I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve heard them tell me they cannot be fully themselves at work, because that’s just not how business operates. I’ve heard so many laments about the work place lacking authenticity, compassion and love.

In short, the full range of humanity is rarely encouraged in the corporate world.

In ‘Heart of Business‘ I explored what might be some of the factors behind this and then I got to wondering in more detail what might a ‘compassionate business‘ look like?

Here’s what I came up with and I’d really like to hear your thoughts on it.

1   Purpose

A compassionate business is clear about its purpose and how it peacefully contributes to the world. Its actions are always informed by and measured against this.

Ask many people what’s the purpose of the business they work in and most will reply ‘making money’.

I just don’t believe it – it’s a myth we’ve grown up with. Many businesses have sadly lost sight of their purpose and how their existence benefits mankind as a whole. They’ve come to believe that it’s all about money.

Every successful and sustainable organisation has a purpose – a reason to exist – beyond the profit motive. If making money is truly the only purpose then I don’t believe a business will survive long. It’s just not possible to fool enough people for long enough that they’re getting something of value when they’re not. Sure, it’s possible to trick people long enough to make some quick money (maybe even a lot of it) but really, what’s the point?

It’s all about making the world a better place. It might be hard to find and may take some digging around, but I believe it’s there, lurking under the day to day pressures to bring in revenue and cut costs.

Long term success can only come when a business exists to provide value, makes people’s lives better, and serves some human needs without being at the cost of others. And if the business as a whole is crystal clear about it, then the day to day work itself becomes far more meaningful for those working inside.

2   Decision making

A compassionate business involves people in decisions that affect them.

For me it’s a fundamental human need to be involved and heard in decisions that have an impact on me. It’s one of the foundations of the democratic tradition many of us hold so dear.

Yet we’ve got used to being told what to do and to allow others to make decisions for us.

Dependency has no real place in the life of a mature adult. We expect to have a say in many areas of our lives yet put up with the opposite in much of our working lives. I think it’s habit and largely a relic from our childhood when we relied on our parents to decide (even then we didn’t like it much of the time). It appears in business as the myth of ‘boss knows best’.

Many businesses make some attempt to involve workers in the name of ‘empowerment’ or other such things. A compassionate business will open up decision making all the way and include all those affected by a decision. It doesn’t mean that decisions won’t be delegated, it doesn’t mean that difficult decisions will be avoided but it will mean the basic desire we all have for control over the direction of our lives will be honoured.

3   Hierarchy

A compassionate business will value equally each and every employee. Structure will be used purely as a functional tool to help order complexity.

I think we all want to be treated as human beings – with respect, understanding and an appreciation for the unique contribution we each make to the world.

In many organisations people carry a label and a place in a hierarchical structure. Often they get seen for position first and for their humanity second. The functional need for structure often gets mixed up with the ego desire for status and power.

The organisation I worked for was more human friendly than most. Even so I was treated very differently when my label changed (because of promotion) from ‘Manager’ to ‘Senior Manager’. My voice was listened to more, I had greater privileges, more money, involved in more confidential matters and more highly respected. I felt that I was more valuable and important – and was treated that way – yet I was exactly the same person. All that changed was one word attached to my name.

A label does give some indication of experience and breadth of perspective. ‘Senior’ indicated I had more of the big picture, was less involved in day to day affairs and internally could make more expensive decisions. It didn’t make me – Ian Peatey – more important or valuable as a human being.

A compassionate business will not only recognise people according to their experience, capability and breadth or depth of view – but value them equally as human beings. Hierarchy will be minimal and used solely for ordering the complex web of relationships and organisation.

4   Duties and Responsibilities

Things will only be done in a compassionate business if they serve a purpose, add value to the world and are done willingly and freely.

Most businesses operate around roles and job descriptions. If you do what your boss tells you, carry out your duties, fulfil your tasks and meet your goals then you’ll get paid. Do it consistently and you might even get promoted.

There’s little room in most workplaces to freely decide if you want to do something or not. In turn that probably means many activities are not done ‘willingly’ but done because ‘that’s what the job requires‘.

I often hear ‘ … but there are some things that just have to be done. If you give freedom to people then nothing will get done.

I have two responses to this.

First, yes, there are some things that need to be done that are not enjoyable. But most of us seem to manage quite well outside work to attend to these kind of things quickly and efficiently.

Second, I wonder how many of these things that are effectively ‘forced’ at work, are in fact serving life. My experience was many things I did were to feed the egos of those higher in the organisation or, more likely, were just a waste of time.

A compassionate business will liberate it’s workers from the ‘duty and responsibility’ mindset and will cull all activities that do not contribute directly to fulfilling the purpose of the business.

5   Competition

A compassionate business will compete to be the best that it can, respecting and valuing those with whom it competes.

Competition can be a wonderfully creative force to improve performance. It can also be a terribly destructive force.

As I see it, the key differentiation is the attitude I take towards my competitor. Destructive competition channels energy into winning whatever the cost and irrespective of the consequences. Winning is about beating the competition – making ‘the enemy’ lose.

There’s another approach to competition which is about channelling the energy into being the best I can. I use my competitor to help me measure how good I am and to raise my own game beyond what I would do on my own. Winning is about performing better than I did yesterday. It’s respectful to my competitor as an ally not as an enemy.

What have been your experiences in business?

Are there compassionate businesses out there or is it all cut and thrust?

Family values

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Reds are in yu beds

Banks are in de red

Bombs are in de city

Taxes burn

Crime rates soar

Hospitals fight

Schools rebel

Water kills

Cops kill

Cover-ups uncovered

Neo-nazis rise

Pension funds not trusted

Talks fail

War looms

An yu hav da cheek to call me

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Benjamin Zephaniah

This was written in 1996 by the British poet and seems to me that it’s just as relevant today as it was 13 years ago. I found it in one of my lighter (!) books for summer reading ‘Mind Readings: Writers’ Journeys Through Mental States’.

For those in the Northern hemisphere, I hope you are enjoying your summer.

I’m getting back to the blog after some break … check back in a couple of days for resumption of normal service!

Heart of business

‘Business bashing’ seems to be a common pastime with corporations getting the blame for everything from pollution, climate change, destruction of the natural world through to waging and maintaining war. In short, just about all the ills of the world are apparently on the hands of big business.

Is business really that powerful and that destructive?

It’s driven many of the rapid advances in our standard of living over the last few hundred years. So yes, it is powerful! These advances (mainly enjoyed by the minority of the world’s population) have come with many, unpleasant side effects. So, yes, it is also destructive.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if the power of business could be harnessed in a different way? A way that doesn’t extract such a high price from the majority of mankind and from our planet?

Behind every business …

Blaming business doesn’t really get to the core of the problem as it’s a convenient facade to hide behind.

Much of the complexity of the business world is nothing more than smoke and mirrors hiding a way of organising people (sometimes very large numbers) to do together, more than they can do on their own. It’s a way of bringing people together to create value, and, through the market economy, pass that value on – which was made a whole lot easier with the invention of money.

Isn’t that what it ultimately boils down to?

All the time we’re pointing the finger at ‘corporations’, we’re not talking to the people behind the face of the the corporation. Business is people – always was and always will be.

‘Business’ itself doesn’t do anything – people do. Many may have a legal identity of their own, but they have no life of their own – people do. Organisations don’t make decisions, that’s what people do. And businesses don’t wage war, rape the environment and pollute the planet. PEOPLE do!

I’m convinced that these are not bad people and they are not deliberately wreaking havoc and destruction on the world. In the many years I spent in large corporations, I don’t remember ever meeting someone who was hell bent on devastation or intent on causing pain and suffering.

What I did notice were three things that I believe contribute to some people apparently not caring about the world.

1   Leaving your heart at home

A few days ago I was sitting behind two businessmen on a train. I really wasn’t eavesdropping, they were talking loud enough for everyone to hear who chose to. I don’t know exactly what they did or what their responsibility was but they were talking about problems with one of their businesses caused by the economic squeeze.  They could have been venture capitalists, or something like that. Before anyone writes to tell me that they couldn’t have been venture capitalists because of x, y and z … I’ll just say that I have little idea what a venture capitalist does, it just sounded good.

“It’s not a problem. I’ll just tell the 4 of them they don’t have jobs any more,” said one.

What struck me most, was that he laughed as he said this. It could have been nervous laughter, but from the way the two of them were talking it didn’t seem like it. In any case, his tone was light and cheerful. Business as usual.

How can someone talk so lightly, even with amusement, about telling someone they no longer have a job?

There seems to be unwritten rule that when we walk into the workplace, we are expected to leave the majority of our emotional world at home – especially that part connected with compassion. Typically we’re employed for our bodies or minds, but rarely for our hearts.

The man on the train had clearly left his heart somewhere.

2    Fear

Despite all the talk about empowerment and employee ownership, most business remains firmly autocratic,  hierarchical and strangely resistant to democracy. In my experience few bosses deliberately use fear to get things done. There are some around, but they really don’t need to.

Fear is built into the structure of most organisations.

Most people I talk to are not motivated to work solely for money or position (a rare few are) but they do value the sense of security they have from a ’steady job’. It takes a lot of courage to disobey, disagree with or even speak your mind to your boss when you don’t like how things are going. If that applies to the small things, then it’s even harder to speak up against the corporation you work for.

It’s easy to say, “If you don’t like what your company does, then leave” – but for many people, while clearly a choice, that’s a frightening step.

Fear steps in.

On a day to day basis, the boss influences and decides promotions, pay increases and many other things. The boss can punish and can reward and whenever those two appear, fear is not far away. Fear of getting punished, fear of not getting rewarded.

Fear is built into business as a tool to get things done.

Would fear be needed if everything we did in the name of business made the world a better place?

3   Distracted from purpose

I think business has simply got off track.

There are many reasons why it’s happened. The dominance of the financial systems lead to short term focus on what’s easily measurable (profit, share prices etc). Intense competition in many areas of business require hard, aggressive tactics to maintain market position – and hard, aggressive tactics are rarely high in the compassion stakes.

There are surely plenty of reasons why business has generally lost sight of its purpose. It is there, just hidden under surplus layers of commerce and an obsession with short term gain.

We’ve forgotten that behind all business is an intention to create value and serve life.

And we’re all part of it in some way. Whether you work in a business or just buy stuff from business you can make a difference.

Be clear on purpose, carry your heart with you always and act out of love, not fear.