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Snowflake or Compost?

You are not a beautiful and unique snowflake.  You are the same decaying organic matter as everyone else, and we are all part of the same compost pile.

Chuck Palahniuk Fight Club

This quote from Fight Club seemed quite apt given that it’s been snowing here all weekend and all the unique and beautiful snowflakes are piled into great mountains on the roads and footpaths.

This is the view from my window (just to add a small personal touch!).

Are we unique snowflakes or part of the same compost pile?

Yes and yes.

I doubt there’s anyone who’s not been mesmerised by snow at some point in their lives. I grew up in the South of England where snow is rather uncommon and it still inspires the small child in me to play or enjoy a day off school work.

It’s less unusual in Poland and Romania where I now live. Even so, with the heavy falls over the last days in Warsaw, I got to wondering if it’s true that no two flakes are identical.

Is each snowflake really unique, as is commonly believed?

Snow – a short history

Each flake is formed from the same building blocks – i.e. water molecules. When the conditions (mainly temperature and humidity) are right, the molecules crystallise into ice.

Molecules, as I’m sure you know, are very, very small which means there are very, very many in each flake of snow – making the possible number of shapes and sizes enormous.

Because of the structure of the water molecule, it takes on a shape based on the number three – most commonly a 6-sided figure. Theoretically, two snowflakes could end up identical, but it’s highly unlikely because each flake travels it’s own unique path – even flakes travelling together will deviate slightly as their paths are not precisely the same.

The precise shape is affected by atmospheric conditions as each forming snow flake starts it’s long journey from the heavens to the earth. It passes through different conditions as it moves downwards, all of which determine how the crystal develops.

It will also be influenced by impurities (dust for example) it collects on the way until finally it lands on earth, almost certainly unnoticed by anyone.

Those we do take the time to examine are quite wonderful examples of the miracle of nature.

Ultimately of course, it will decompose into either ice or water – its essence joining the huge body of water making up around two thirds of the planet’s surface. How long they last and how much they’ll be noticed, is determined by where they land.

Is any of this so very different from our journey as human beings?

And finally … the largest recorded snowflake measured 38cm (15 inches). You could almost make a whole snow-person from that!

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Surviving Christmas

It’s Monday 21st December and  I’m looking out of the window at the snow on the ground wondering if we’re going to have a white, Romanian Christmas. The sun has nearly set so the coloured lights of the Christmas trees are starting to appear.

Christmas is everywhere – even the desktop icon on my favourite media player has mysteriously grown a Santa hat (I kid you not! It is cute but truly bizarre! Go to the end of the post to see what I mean).

For the last few years I’ve become increasingly ‘anti-Christmas’.

To be more precise, I’ve become increasingly ‘anti-Christmas-commercialisation.’ I wrote last year about the Corporate Take-Over of Christmas so this year my scrooge-like attention is drawn to the personal domain.

15 Carol Singers

The weekend heralded the arrival, en masse, of carol singers, ranging from well trained young theology students with angel voices through to ragged groups of gypsies who seemed to think that blowing random notes on a trumpet was a good way to herald the holiday season.

I didn’t get the impression that any of the approximately 15 visiting groups were interested in anything other than receiving money. I have a very non-peaceful desire to get all zealous and throw cold water over them – but then I know that would ruin it for everyone.

1 Supermarket Trip

Mona and I went to the supermarket early on Saturday morning, just after it opened at 8.00 am, to buy a few supplies. We assumed that at that time of day everyone would still be asleep or digging their cars out the snow and we’d be able to shop in peace.

I really should learn not to make assumptions.

It was packed with people frantically stocking up and you would have got the impression that the end of the world was about to arrive. We were doing the same, so it would be highly hypocritical of me to complain and we spent at least twice as much money as we normally would on a regular excursion for provisions. There’s really no reason for it other than some vague fear that we might starve over the holiday season and not be able to buy anything if we run out.

I don’t normally notice myself respond to a ’scarcity’ view of life – but this was definitely one of those times.

Starvation, thank God, is not part of my reality and I count myself fortunate when I think of all the millions of people who do not have enough to eat.

559 tree decorations

We just decorated our tree and I have to say it’s looking very pretty. I’ve even taken the liberty of putting a photo of it here!

One thing you will notice is that when it comes to decorating the tree, the concept of scarcity is far from our thinking. There are 559 individual decorations collected over many years. It reminds me of my childhood when the tree was a highlight of the year and a focal point for family life and revellry.

I didn’t actually count them – the number 559 is random and simply implies ‘a lot’. It’s a reasonably harmless demonstration of the excess I usually subject myself to at this time of year.

Excess baubles, excess food, excess drink, excess lazy days in front of the TV.

I doubt I can be 100% frugal but would like to curb some of the usual excess.

How to survive Christmas?

‘Survival’ and ‘Christmas’ may seem like strange sentence bedfellows. Either that or it’s a clear sign of my scrooginess coming out again. At this time – a few days before Christmas – I start to get edgy and I do usually worry about how to get through the festivities without exploding.

This year I decided to stop fighting and go with the flow.

I might not actually enjoy the hordes of money-grabbing carolers, supermarket freaks and glittery plastic things hanging from the tree. But that doesn’t mean I should get irate about the secular perversion of this time of year and shut myself away for a week until it blows over.

It is how it how it is and I can choose to enjoy it or fight it. I’m free to enjoy my way, everyone else is free to enjoy it their way.

To those who celebrate Christmas – enjoy your Christmas. To those who celebrate something else – enjoy your something else. To those who don’t celebrate at all – enjoy your non-celebration.

Life’s too short not to enjoy as much of it as possible – even desktop icons that strangely grow Santa hats!

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A Short Celebration Of Human Ingenuity

I’m constantly amazed by our capacity for ingenuity. My mother sent me this video which for me is testament to what we can achieve.

I find it a really beautiful machine. Totally useless as far as I can tell -- but beautiful nonetheless.

Musings On A Laptop

I bought a new laptop last week and am still getting used to it. It’s a replacement for my well used and much appreciated old one. When I say ‘old’ I mean it had just turned 2 years. The sparkling new one is twice as fast, twice the memory, double the gadgets and I paid less money.

And it got me thinking about all the wonderful things to celebrate that were born from our ingenuity -- I’m just surrounded by examples.

I pick up a little black box I call my mobile phone, press a few buttons and talk to someone on the other side of the world almost as clearly as though they were in the next room.

I switch on the TV and see actual images from all over the world and beyond, side by side with fantastical images of amazing creativity -- I’m thinking of political broadcasts here ;-)

I look out of the window and see huge buildings that seem to defy gravity.

I get on a machine that flies through the air and in a matter of hours can be pretty much anywhere in the world.

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I can see pictures taken of far away galaxies of unimaginable size and beauty.

We’ve invented machines that can see inside the human body and chemicals that boost our immune system and heal diseases that were fatal to our ancestors.

I could go on and on …

On the other hand …

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We produce things that kill, destroy, pollute and poison.

I find it important to remember these things while we pat ourselves on the back for everything we’ve achieved. Our ingenuity is truly a cause for celebration and I look forward to the day when we can also fully celebrate our compassion for each other and care for the world we live in.

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A Gift To The World

On this day in 1963, something happened that fundamentally changed the course of my life. It wasn’t something that hit the headlines, but it was something that still has repercussions to this day. In fact, this event is having an effect on you right this moment as you wouldn’t be reading these words if it hadn’t taken place.

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11 November 1963 was the day on which I was born.

How To Celebrate

Last night Mona asked me how I want to celebrate my birthday.

My immediate reaction was the same I usually get in relation to my birthday; ‘uuuugggghhhh,’ together with a strong desire to hide in a corner for the whole day and hope everyone else has forgotten it. It’s not my age that’s the problem as I enjoy whatever age I am and 46 is a nice round number.

My problem is partly about celebrating. I don’t really know how to do it.

I watch others celebrate at parties and in bars. Singing, dancing and obviously having a good time. I sit there and just can’t understand it. Externalising my celebration of life is just not my way. I can speak about it, I can feel it deep inside – but expressing it in a ‘traditional’ way is not my style.

1147773_club_1There have been times when I faked it, but that’s pretty tiring and I’d prefer to be more authentic. Christmas, weddings, other people’s birthdays, holidays, parties I can just about cope with if I’m in the right frame of mind. I can celebrate with others, though I do generally avoid random parties. I got fed up with drunken revellers demanding I enjoy myself – then dragging me onto the dance floor, trying to get me drunk or, in one horrible incident, trying to persuade me to take cocaine. NO WAY!

I prefer to celebrate quietly. Peacefully. On my own, or with those closest to me.

Still, I’ve struggled over the years to celebrate in any way on my birthday and have tried to hide it where possible.

But not this year.

My Birthday Is About – Me

1076955_vibrant_giftI’ve long claimed my reluctance to celebrate my birthday was in respect for my grandfather who died on my 21st birthday or that it’s because it’s ‘Remembrance Day‘ or ‘Veterans’ Day’.

Frankly both are weak excuses.

Mona pointed out to me last night:

If you can’t appreciate the ways in which you are a gift to the world, then it’s hard to fulfil your potential. And birthdays are the one day in the year when I think you could be doing just that.’

This hit the proverbial nail on the head.

I was brought up to be modest and keep my light hidden. At times I’ve kept it so hidden I’ve actually lost sight of the fact that it’s there.

Each and every one of us is a gift to the World.

Each of us has a light inside that can shine out for the benefit of all – if we choose to let it.

10 Ways I’m A Gift To The World

This is probably the hardest list I’ve ever written. Every cell of my body is crying out,

“Don’t do it! Who are you to blow your own trumpet? You’re going to lose all your readers if you do this. It’s just not DONE!’

So I say ‘thank you’ to the helpful voices in my head … and I’m going to do this anyway.

  1. Three people wouldn’t exist without me … my beautiful daughters Laura (17 years), Elena (6 years) and Nameless One (- 3 months).
  2. My humour which has made many people laugh
  3. My smile which has infected many people with smiles of their own
  4. The simplicity of my material world which inspires several people
  5. My writing which has stimulated change in people
  6. My capacity to listen deeply which gives others the space and love they need to find themselves
  7. My dedication to bring peace into my own life and to share that with others
  8. Through my presence I’ve brought joy to the lives of many people – and Mona is one of them
  9. I make Athos and Balki (our 2 dogs!) wag their tail whenever I give them attention
  10. I tend to inspire quite intense feelings in other people (not all of them enjoyable!).

And Finally …

I had a wonderful early birthday present – my last article had an avalanche of readers (around 30,000 over two days). It came just at a moment I was again asking myself if this blog is really worth the effort I put into it. So a big thank you to all who contributed to the overwhelming success of that post. It made my day!

As it’s my birthday I’m allowed one birthday wish.

I would like to hear, in the comments or by Email the answer to the following question:

In What Ways are YOU a gift to the world?

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The secret of love, life and being happy

Guest post

First up, I have a guest post for Lea over at Ocean of Perspectives and one I’m especially pleased with.

Here’s an extract in a not-so-subtle attempt to whet your appetite for more:

Playing our own tune

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”

Gandhi

This quote sums up my approach to life. My aspired approach to life, that is.

I’ve still got some way to go as the truth is, at the age of 45, I’m still unlearning a lot of accumulated rubbish from my first 35 years.

This stuff is not deep, painful, unusual or traumatic. Sometimes, I think it might be easier to deal with if it was. It’s all regular, everyday beliefs about how the world, society and I function. There’s nothing extreme or extraordinary there.

For example, I believed that science, logic and rationality rule. That mind and thought are King! I imagined once I left college I would be fully equipped to deal with the world. I knew how the world worked.

I was brought up on a middle-class path of a steady job, slow but regular promotion, saving for retirement, marrying my childhood sweetheart and buying a small house and car (big enough for a family). It was a well worn path trod by my parents, their parents before them and pretty much everyone I knew.

Choosing another way never entered my head.

“Live as if you have many more years ahead of you. Learn to pass exams and then forget it all.”

Peatey

In 2001, I was presented with an incredibly simple idea that changed my life.

If you want to find out the secret of love, life and being happy (ha!) then head over to Lea to read the rest of the article.

But before you do that, you might just want to stay here for a few minutes more to ..

… leave a comment?

Last time I did a guest post I closed comments.

With hindsight I regret that, because I missed the connection with you all. So I’m leaving comments open today and I’d love it if you dropped by and made your presence known.

The only condition is you tell us all your secret to love, life and being happy.

No pressure, then!

Just make it good!

If you’re a regular reader and too shy to have left a comment yet, this would be the perfect chance to say ‘Hi’.

I don’t bite and the last guest post I wrote only 15 people looked at the parallel post here (thanks Mum!) so no-one will read your comment except me.

I promise!

If you don’t want to leave a comment then you could pick up a bit of …

… shared wisdom

I’ve had a busy week connecting up with a few wise souls out there generously giving away the fruits of their life’s harvest by writing about them.

There’s absolutely no point in discovering great articles, amazing sites and awesome people without sharing them with the whole world. Here are some of the people and sites I’ve had the honour to connect to this week, and I highly encourage you to give them a moment of your busy schedule as they are all worth following:

Michael at Love to Spare

Nadia at Happy Lotus

Lisis at Quest For Balance

David at Raptitude

Roger at A Content Life

Jay at Porsidan

Gwynn and Sherri at Serene Journey

That’s all for today.

See you in a couple of days!

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