Comments on: 7 Lessons From Losing My Hair

By: Anya

Anya — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 11:30:25 +0000

I read the comments above and what it says is true and valid, but being a lady I associate my hair with being feminin. I have been brought up in a society that associates beauty in women with gorgeous long locks and as much as I try to look past that I cant help feeling truely devastated. When you watch a movie you will many a time see the hero with very short hair or a shaved head, but you will hardly ever see that with the feminine lead. I do feel judged, and I have tried so many different remedies from having vitamin injections in the head, to rogaine, to these various shampoos and conditioners and nothing helps. Every morning there are the hairs on the pillow, the clumps that fall out in the shower, the fallen few on the clothes and floor and my hairloss or my attempt to conceal my hairloss is constantly on my mind. I am in my mid 20’s and im horrified at whats going to happen to my appearence in the next 2,5,10 years. I used to be and feel so confident, I really could have taken over the world, and now I feel different, I lost something, and im not going to get that back. I remember jogging and the feeling of my thick curls bouncing behind my back, I remember twisting my long hair and feeling how thick and strong that hair rope was.

By: ianpeatey

ianpeatey — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 22:29:17 +0000

Hi John. Great comment, and yes, it is the world we live in if we choose it.

Reminds me of the (short) Rumi poem:

“Out beyond ideas of wrong doing and right doing, there is a field; I’ll meet you there.”

See you there!

By: ianpeatey

ianpeatey — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 22:27:05 +0000

Why wait? There’s no time like today!

By: ianpeatey

ianpeatey — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 22:26:34 +0000

I think, even if I could reengineer my hair follicles, I wouldn’t. I like being bald and having a shaved head. It makes me a better person and even allows me to let blatant product promotion slip through my spam censorship

By: ianpeatey

ianpeatey — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 22:24:25 +0000

Thank you so much for this comment. I find it sad that our cultures can have such an impact on us .. especially when connected with things we have no control with. I really hope you find peace with your bald spot and rise above the judgements of others.

By: ianpeatey

ianpeatey — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 22:04:34 +0000

And the culture’s we live in have a lot to do with our insecurities .. images and associations such as ‘real men have full head’s of hair’. Images of what is masculine beauty have a great hold on us .. maybe not as extreme as images of feminine beauty, but still there nevertheless. And a source of great stress to many people.

By: ianpeatey

ianpeatey — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 22:02:09 +0000

I start to look goofy when my hair gets to about half a centimetre! And then goofy turns into ‘mad scientist’ before eventually reaching ‘pointy haired boss’. I really have little choice but to keep it short!

By: ianpeatey

ianpeatey — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 22:00:32 +0000

How could I forget Patrick Stewart! What an oversight.

I remember you writing about your shaved head experiences. Clearly it’s more unusual for women to shave their heads so I imagine the naked feelign was much more intense than mine.

Btw .. it’s not only shaved men that are sexy!